Finding the Right Work Life Balance

Earlier than you begin studying this I need you to all know that I shouldn’t have all of the solutions and we don’t all stay with the identical circumstances so these are simply my views and experiences on how I’ve managed my work life stability. To many individuals it would appear to be I’ve all of it labored out and to be sincere I do suppose I’ve a reasonably good work life stability. Nevertheless it wasn’t all the time that approach. I’m in all probability older than most individuals who will learn this and subsequently I’ve had extra time to make errors and be taught from them.

Burn out at 21

After I was 21 I had an incredible life, however a horrible work life stability. I used to be residing in London and dealing in a publish manufacturing firm within the TV trade. It’s possible you’ll already know that I all the time wished to work in TV and at 21 I gave it a go. I had the right life. I liked my job a lot. I might get up within the morning dancing going to work. However I used to be getting paid 7 thousand kilos a 12 months. In London that isn’t so much to stay on.

So I additionally had a one other fulltime job in a bar. I used to be working 80 – 90 hours every week. I used to be additionally training Taekwondo and going for my black belt on the time. And I used to be out partying fairly a bit. I used to be 21 in any case. Good life stability. Solely I did not sleep a lot and I actually did not eat properly. I had little or no cash and selected a bottle of wine over a superb dinner. Free toast within the studio would do for meals. My fridge was continually empty and I lived on pasta and tomato sauce and if I had sufficient cash for bacon properly that was an actual deal with. Generally the manufacturing would purchase us lunch and that is after I ate correctly.

However I did not care. I used to be completely happy. Till I burnt out and was made to understand that I couldn’t stay like this. That meant giving up my wonderful job in London and shifting house to stay with my dad and mom. On the time I felt like an entire failure however truly giving up one thing you like to enhance your well being isn’t a failure in any respect.

Stress of Workplace Hours

A couple of years in the past whereas working in tech I had a timetable that was fairly versatile so I made a decision I might begin early and end early. Get the job completed and go house kinda factor. Do not get me mistaken, I actually preferred my job however workplace hours and all that. So I used to rise up earlier than 7am and go to work and three instances every week I might go to cross match to coach for an hour. Then I might come house and bathe, seize my pre-made smoothie for my breakfast, my pre-made lunch, my laptop computer and put all of it into my bag, acquired on my bike and cycled to work. I might then sit in conferences having my breakfast, my smoothie.

I might then do my job which consisted of conferences, main my staff, conferences, emails, jira, consulting, estimating and every part a Tech Lead has to do. I used to be all the time busy and all the time had deadlines and so my lunch, which was within the work fridge, would typically sit within the work fridge till I used to be so hungry I mentioned I higher cease and eat. Generally I might sit at my desk and eat and typically I might fully neglect to eat and would work late and be fully ravenous after I got here house. Generally I did issues proper and stopped for lunch however not all the time.

At all times working after Hours

After I acquired house within the night I might examine so much. I used to be the Tech Lead making massive choices and attempting to push new tech ahead akin to static websites, JavaScript frameworks and headless CMS’s. I wanted to be assured after I proposed these options and I did not have sufficient time in work to analysis and prototype all this so I might do it at house in my very own free time. I might even have conferences, calls or emails with the CEO after hours and at weekends. I used to be additionally answerable for this as I might ship emails too in evenings and weekends.

I used to be all the time working and after I wasn’t I used to be mentoring for OpenClassrooms and Treehouse and instructing English on the weekend trigger it was more money and I simply do not know methods to say no.

I principally had a horrible work life stability however I felt it was crucial. As a feminine Tech Lead, and infrequently the one girl in a consumer assembly, I needed to show myself in each state of affairs. My concepts and ideas all the time needed to be given with big confidence and backed up by POC’s and I all the time needed to have the reply to each query that was going to be thrown at me. I used to be decided to succeed and make the right choices close to tech.

Working Distant


I modified jobs and acknowledged working distant simply as have been moved into lockdown. Everybody has had completely different and troublesome experiences of lockdown and sadly some persons are nonetheless going by means of this. We have been locked in our residence for 7 weeks with no chance of doing any sport, no going for a stroll, nothing.

I lived for my 8pm balcony celebration the place we might clap for the healthcare staff and dance to 2 songs that we might hear from the huge audio system of one of many neighbouring blocks. This was the one second in the entire day that I acquired to see folks. Consider me there was many a second after I simply wished to leap off the balcony. If this was life perpetually then it wasn’t the one I wished to stay.

That is after I began doing sport on the roof terrace. I attempted to run 10km spherical in circles, altering route each kilometer to not damage my ankles. 7 weeks of no sport. No approach. I needed to do one thing. I even did Taekwondo courses on-line. Not superb however it was enjoyable on the time.

Throughout lockdown I simply labored. Just about all day, day by day. Even at weekends. I wanted one thing to maintain my thoughts off the world round me so I did not have a look at the information till after 8pm. I simply pretended the world was regular till then. And I actually simply labored.

Freedom to do Sport

Once we lastly acquired set free to do sport, 7 weeks later, it was such a sense of freedom. Just for 2 hours although. We might solely do a most of two hours so I used to be out the door and on my bike at 8am and again at precisely 10am. And it was so good to see life, folks, odor issues, hear issues. It was bizarre as no youngsters have been allowed out. That they had a special hour to us so it was like youngsters did not exist and the same old noise of kids taking part in was to not be heard for no less than one other month till the time restrictions have been eliminated.

One factor the lockdown thought me is that I actually spent my days simply working and residing for these 2 hours of freedom, these 2 hours of sport. This was so vital to me and one thing I wanted to proceed to do. After I look again on the diary I’ve saved the place I wrote down my targets, One among them was merely to do extra sport. Why up to now was I not capable of obtain this. I wanted to raised handle my time in order that I used to be working much less and doing extra sport.

I actually wasn’t that good at working so placing on my footwear and going for a run took quite a lot of effort. However when somebody takes your freedom away from you after which offers it again you realise that you just had one thing all alongside and it was truly you that was stopping your self from being free and from doing the stuff you like to do.

Placing Sport First

In order that’s after I determined to vary how I stay. I made a decision to do sport within the morning, each morning for no less than an hour however on common for 3 hours. As a lot as I like sport if I sit on the pc for lengthy sufficient I’ll neglect to cease after which it is too late to do any sport. Many individuals say, wow 3 hours. However I do not really feel prefer it’s so much. We spend a lot time in entrance of a display primarily sitting so being lively and on my toes for simply 3 hours a day actually is not quite a lot of time.

I work significantly better after I rise up within the morning and go for a 60km cycle or a 15km run or play just a few padel matches. The morning solar helps me recognize issues, clears the thoughts and units me up for the day. My sport is often outdoor and surrounded by nature. Then I do know I can go to work and never need to attempt to cease work to do sport. Trigger for some purpose I merely hold saying 5 extra minutes to myself after which hours go and it turns into too late to do sport. There are days after I can take pleasure in a night run however it would not all the time occur. Morning simply works so significantly better for me.

me cycling with other female cyclists

To be able to ensure that I saved to my routine I might block time in my calendar for these actions, both the cycles or padel matches and so on. Whether it is set in my calendar then I will not neglect to do it even when it is one thing I like. As soon as it turns into routine it turns into a brand new behavior that you’re merely used to doing.

Morning Routine

I begin my day at 7am however I’ll decide up my cellphone and begin studying by means of emails, slack, twitter and so on. I do know this can be a horrible behavior however truly typically it simply units me up for the day so will see if I hold that behavior or not.

I then make my breakfast which is a smoothie of almond milk, almonds, chocolate, cocoa powder and bananas. I make sufficient for 4 days so most days I simply seize one from the fridge after which go to my workplace, (the room subsequent to my bed room) and I sit on the couch having my smoothie and writing in my 6 minute diary about what I’m grateful for, how I can enhance and the way I’m going to make right now nice. I then write down my desires and targets and issues I need to obtain. Sure I do that each single day.

I then both examine, or work for an hour if there’s something pressing, however usually I attempt to use this time to check, do a course, watch a convention speak and so on.

Then at about 9am I head to the fitness center, typically a bit earlier or typically a bit later relying on if I’ve a category or match or a cycle. I run to the fitness center day by day and run house which is barely a 1km run however it was a behavior I made and have saved for nearly 2 years now. I can not imagine I used to drive to the fitness center.

me running in the forest

I then keep within the fitness center for about 3 hours. I play padel which has similarities to tennis and we play outdoor and as a staff so not solely am I within the contemporary air however I’m additionally mixing with folks. Folks and sport give me power. Generally I would go for a 3-4 hour cycle with the membership and typically I would simply go for a 10-15km run.

Afternoon Routine

At about 12 o’clock I’m again house and usually work for an hour. I then begin to prepare dinner lunch which I truly actually take pleasure in. I get to have lunch with my husband which is one thing I might by no means do earlier than. Lunch in Spain is extra like a dinner as in a sizzling meal so it is very nice to prepare dinner for 2 and eat collectively. At 2pm my husband goes to work and so I head again to my workplace. I’ll then work straight by means of till 9pm or 9:15 somewhat when my husband will get house and makes certain I’m not on the pc.

me in my home office with all my screens

In the summertime it’s a lot simpler to take breaks trigger it’s so sizzling and we’ve a group pool, so I’ll usually take a 15 minute pool break which is very nice. However exterior of summer time I’m actually horrible at taking breaks so I attempt to do issues like cease for a couple of minutes and empty the dishwasher or hang around the garments or clear the kitchen. Simply taking 5 minutes away from the display is extraordinarily helpful.

Though I say this I’m nonetheless engaged on bettering this. Now that the times are getting nicer I additionally attempt to work some hours on the roof terrace. Generally altering surroundings helps and even simply getting up and going to the roof is no less than some type of motion. I do have a standing desk although and attempt to do all my conferences standing in order that I’m not sitting in the identical place for too lengthy.

me in my egg chair with my laptop on the roof

Night Routine

At 9:15 we begin to put together dinner which is often some bread and ham and olives or some type of salad or sandwich. Then I’m pressured to look at 45 minutes of Netflix which is usually okay and typically simply bores me and I discover myself reaching for my cellphone and scrolling by means of twitter till my husband offers out to me. And at 11pm or simply after 11 I am going to mattress. Then rise up the following day and do it yet again.

Clearly typically issues change. I won’t have a match and subsequently I would spend much less time on the fitness center within the morning and maybe go for a cycle or run within the night. Additionally, not usually, however typically it rains within the mornings and when it does, I simply work after which go working later when it is dry. Or typically I’ll do an additional lengthy day of working and the following day do an additional lengthy day of sport. The truth that I can simply change my work hours based mostly on the rain is absolutely wonderful.

Weekend Routine

On the weekends I do not work. Or no less than I attempt to not. I are likely to rise up within the mornings and do sport, usually biking for about 4 hours or working or I could have a padel match.

padel tournament

Then I’ve lunch after which I usually spend just a few hours learning or simply programming for enjoyable, bettering my web site or attempting out new issues.

In the summertime I do are likely to go to the seashore or typically go for an extended lunch with just a few drinks which implies that learning would not occur however thats okay. I can all the time make up for it in the course of the week. I do attempt to have non pc days typically on the weekends however I actually simply take pleasure in studying an excessive amount of.

Creating Routines

For me creating these habits and this routine has helped me have time to check and get a lot completed. It isn’t all the time set in stone. Generally I’ll have a mentoring session throughout my so referred to as work schedule and which means then the following day I’ll simply make up the time within the morning. Being versatile helps because it causes much less stress. Having time to do the stuff you love, which for me is sport, actually helps me be extra productive.

I really feel I’ve an incredible work life stability. However everyone seems to be completely different and actually you must discover your personal that works for you. Do extra of what makes you content. If you wish to do one thing however do not appear to have the ability to, then create a brand new behavior to verify it occurs. It may very well be sport, spending time with the household, studying, no matter.

Notifications Turned Off

As for my cellphone and receiving messages resulting from time zones I do not suppose this will likely be a difficulty and hasn’t been up to now. Though I’ll admit I did use to reply all slack messages on Sundays and it was exhausting to vary this however merely turning off slack notifications on a Sunday actually helps. For context, I labored for an organization in Israel whose weekend is Friday and Saturday subsequently it was regular that they ship messages and emails to me on Sundays.

However usually my cellphone is all the time on silent. All day day by day. My apple watch offers me notifications and if its vital I get my cellphone and reply and if its not I simply ignore it until I end work. Sorry mam.

All notifications are additionally turned off all the time on my pc. I do have a display open only for slack and discord so I can simply see if there are any messages that want answering with out them truly popping up and disturbing me. And when engaged on the roof with one display, my watch tells me if there are messages that I must reply. And if I actually need to I can activate notifications only for sure messaging apps and shut non vital ones like e-mail and so on.

Issues I’m not good at

A few issues I’m not good at. I’m horrible at cleansing and I truly pay a cleaner to return twice a month to deep clear the residence, home windows and so on. The remainder of the time we’ve a robotic hover that does the job. I do not keep in mind the final time I cleaned a flooring.

I’m horrible at bringing the bins out together with the recycling. I all the time neglect this. The bins can solely be completed at a sure time which is somewhat annoying and the recycling, I’ve no excuse, I simply have not created a brand new behavior for it but.

I by no means make the mattress. I feel it is simply pointless. I by no means iron except there’s a high that may’t be worn with out ironing however then you definitely will be assured I’ll put on it only some instances a 12 months.

I am no good at remembering to water vegetation. They usually all die on me. It takes seconds I do know however I simply appear to neglect about them. I actually ought to enhance this and return to rising the veg and herbs on the roof once more.

I am not a giant fan of meals purchasing however it does need to be completed so I discover time. Usually at weekends or very last thing within the night if we’re actually wanting one thing I make a fast journey to the closest store simply earlier than it closes.

Do I’ve all of it discovered?

And that is just about my daily, my work life stability. It took me a very long time to determine these items out and you’ll too. Simply attempt to do the stuff you love and prioritise them after which create small habits to be sure you get them completed. I’m not actually certain I’m doing issues proper or if this may change sooner or later however for now this actually works for me.

me in a swimming pool

I used to start out work as early as doable and attempt to end as early as doable however all the time find yourself working extra. And now I do the exact opposite and the one time I work later than 9pm is when there’s soccer on the TV. A lot favor to work than watch soccer.

I very a lot favor this schedule, particularly in winter. I get to do sport in day mild which is so helpful. I personally love my routine. It would not work for everybody however it actually works for me. So discover the one which finest works for you, particularly in case you have the liberty to decide on your personal hours. Discover the proper stability and imagine me you may be a lot extra productive and a lot happier.

Issues to Be aware

As a lot as routine is vital it’s also okay to interrupt it each from time to time. Proper now I’m injured so cannot participate in my regular routine. Stopping additionally makes me recognize how a lot I get completed as a result of if it wasn’t for routine I might get misplaced within the pc and never get something completed in any respect. Not simply work however the pc usually, social media and so on can actually devour us and we will simply unfastened a lot time and after we do, that is after we unfastened our productiveness and surprise why.

I do verify Twitter quite a bit and typically I’ve to cease myself from scrolling and scrolling and after I catch myself it usually means I want to simply rise up and stroll round. It’s important to snap your self out of the second. I very not often use Fb and I haven’t got Instagram or TikTok just because I do not need to dedicate extra time to social media.

If you happen to ever surprise the place your time goes begin writing down what you’re doing for every week after which look again and see what issues you may simply lower out. Take away 2 hours every week of social media and you would simply write a weblog publish, examine one thing or create a YouTube video. All of us have the identical 24 hours within the day just a few folks use their time higher than others.

And naturally some individuals who use their time correctly and likewise carry up children on the identical time are my actual heros and I might love to listen to how they do it. I really feel I’ve it straightforward to be sincere. I am additionally very grateful for the place I stay and having nature so near me.

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